DISCRETION...

 Discretion is one attribute that distinguishes a child from an adult. Children are usually so innocent, naive, trusting and sometimes loud. Because of their nature, they tend to say things exactly the way they are, with no filter whatsoever. It's not unusual to hear a child say "My dad's car is bigger and finer than your dad's." The child might actually be saying the truth, but as an adult, we know not to say something like that or not to say it to a group or at a place, because we have more discretion, experience and are more sensitive regarding certain things.

Now, many people throw discretion to the wind, some deliberately and others ignorantly. Some of those who do so deliberately, do because they are boastful and want to show off; they just always want to be the center of attraction and attention, therefore, they are so loud about their achievements, possessions and what not. This particular group, are even prone to tell lies because they just must "represent" and be out there. There are so many of this group amongst our celebrities and even on social networks.

Another sect of those who act indiscreetly deliberately, do so because they come from a background of deprivation; So when God "butters their bread", they can't seem to get a hold of themselves. They just always have to flaunt whatever, to make up for the yesteryears.

However, this piece focuses on those on the other hand, who act indiscreetly ignorantly. They do so out of naivety. Some of them are just too pure at heart like a child and too trusting, that they think everyone has a heart and mind like theirs. They just say things the way they are, reveal information about their husband, wife, car, trip, work, family, etc, not really with the intent to boast or scorn, but they are just talkers like that.

One Yoruba adage says "bi isu eni ba ta, a ma'n fowo boo je ni!" I hope I got that right, that's one line I learned from Yoruba movies, so nollywood is not as bad as we say after all.... LOL.
In English, I think it means "when one's yam sprouts, one eats it in private." Forgive the translation, but that's the closest I could come up with.

However, it teaches discretion... one should learn to be discreet and not always blow trumpets on everything... e.g learn to discern who to tell what, at what time, in what place and to what extent. Not everyone needs to know every detail of how great your life is....

Another adage says "Imu nika, ti ko gborun ashebi." This basically means even the most sensitive of noses cannot sniff out those with wicked intents. "Ojulari, ore o de nu." this means we only see what's outward, friendships are not always real. The Bible says the heart of man is DESPERATELY WICKED, who can know it?

Easy does it... DISCRETION + MODERATION + THE HOLY SPIRIT...